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Magazines
March 1st, 2007
Fléchelle
Men are as good as women require them to
be.
Being single for some is bliss-for others, something
to be remedied. Since my work is to counsel and coach
single women in the latter group, one question my clients
ask me most often is, "Where can I meet men to practice
these dating techniques?" Although there are many places
where a woman can meet her future mate, I can assure
you that your rate of success will vary on how many
places you can be at once. Omnipresence-would be nice,
but no. Mass marketing-yes!
Here are a few very effective methods to market yourself
to the maximum number of men with a minimal investment
of your time and money:
Internet Dating
Having personal profiles on many Internet dating sites
is like having dozens of elves promoting you to thousands
of potential mates. Your personal profile should be
short and sweet with a few nice pictures of you. (Men
are visual creatures and quickly want to get to the
point.) Omit any information that may indicate where
you live or work. Write about what makes your soul soar
and what makes you feel good instead of how well you
perform in life. This will appeal to "real men" who
want to perform and provide for their family while thriving
to make their women happy.
An effective personal profile can garner dozens even
hundreds of "hits" from men wanting to meet you. Granted,
you will have to view their profiles and select the
ones you pre-qualify over the phone for a potential
date. If all goes well, I teach my clients to meet their
dates at public places such as restaurants or museums.
Strolling on a secluded beach or going hiking on a blind
date is not a good idea.
Do this process correctly and you will have more dates
than you could think humanly possible.
Date by The Minutes
These are pre-arranged speed dating parties where
men and women sit and talk with each other for a few
minutes before moving on to their next potential date.
Most women tend to ask questions and try to know the
most about the man sitting in front of them. This is
the wrong approach and he will hear something like,
"Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah…" Then his few minutes
will be over and he will want to move to the next woman
as quickly as possible in order to recover from you.
Since you want to draw the man's attention towards
you, your job is to attract-not attack. The best thing
is to sit silently and smile at the gentleman who sits
in front of you allowing him to speak first. Give him
the time to compose himself now that he is in the presence
of your mysterious beauty. Answer the questions asked
with as much integrity as possible. If you are marriage-minded
and he asks what you are looking for in a mate, tell
him you are looking for a man worthy to be your husband
and to create a family together. (Don't worry, this
response only turns off the men you don't want to waste
your time with anyway.) Be receptive and warm. Don't
bombard him with tales of how wonderful you are. As
a feminine woman, you only have to feel your feelings
and not try to sell yourself.
At the conclusion of the event, it is important to
choose every man you met that evening as a potential
date. The only men you leave off the list are those
you did not feel good about in regards to safety.
Dating Agencies
Many dating agencies do not charge women a fee. However,
the selection will be made from the gent's wish list.
An agency's female "guest" has little or no say on what
they are looking for in a man. It is best to pay the
fee and become a client rather than being their guest
to be introduced to their male clients.
Before you sign up with any of these agencies, read
the small print to ensure they cater to the type of
men you are looking for. Ask for referrals and if possible,
to speak with some of their active female clients to
have a better understanding on how this agency operates.
Be as discriminating in regards to safety with these
men as you would with the Internet dating sites men;
after all, they are complete strangers as well.
Everyday Life
You would be surprised by how many men you meet (or
could have met) in your daily life. The casual contacts
at the grocery store, post office, bookstore or even
just walking through a shopping mall are all places
where you can meet your future mate. And if you spot
a man who looks interesting to you-flirt! Of course,
flirting in this respect means to make eye contact with
him and smile while maintaining an approachable and
friendly demeanor.
You never know where your perfect life companion will
find you. If you're a marriage- minded woman, always
be aware of interesting men around you and dedicate
yourself to be the woman a real man wants.
Remember, men are as good as women require them
to be.
Fléchelle Morin, relationship & dating specialist
and motivational speaker, is the author of the book
"Kissing Or No Kissing; Whom Will You Save Your
Kisses For? A Dating Guide To Creating Your Dreams."
You can send your questions or comments by email at
flechelle@nokissing.com.
For more on this subject or to learn more about Fléchelle and her dating philosophy, visit her website at www.nokissing.com |
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